Ask Agatha: Husband Won't Finish Inside Me

Hey, Agatha!

I've found myself in a bit of a predicament. You see, my husband and I have a wonderful and fulfilling sex life, except for one tiny detail—he refuses to let me finish inside him, which happens to be my strong preference. He claims it's for safety and STD reasons, but I'm not so sure. We're in a committed lifelong relationship, and I feel like there's more to the story. How can we navigate this situation and find a resolution that works for both of us?

Love, Paul.

First and foremost, it's crucial to acknowledge and validate your feelings, dear Paul. Your preference for finishing inside your husband is a valid expression of desire, and it's understandable that you're seeking clarity on his reluctance.

Now, let's address the reasoning behind your husband's hesitation. While safety and STD concerns are valid, it's essential to explore whether they fully align with the dynamics of your committed relationship. As you rightfully pointed out, STDs can be transmitted through various sexual activities, including oral, anal, and even precum, regardless of orgasm.

Would finishing inside him increase the odds of him getting an STD? Probably not. Maybe there's something else going on here, and you'll need to talk to him (and maybe educate him on sexual health).

If all else fails, consider exploring alternatives together, my love. Whether it's incorporating additional safety measures, seeking guidance from a healthcare professional, or exploring new ways to fulfill your desires within your comfort zones, there are plenty of avenues to explore.

Sending you love, understanding, and the wisdom to navigate the complexities of desire within a committed relationship!

XOXO,

Agatha 💋