During the summer months when it is notoriously hot, things oddly tend to cool down in the bedroom. This could be due, in part, to the fact that our shitty AC systems do little to combat the smothering heat that makes the idea of touching someone else completely revolting. It could also be that we're too busy thinking about how much fun we're going to have at the beach with our friends to care about getting laid. Either way, just because your sex life is in a lull doesn't mean it has to be on its last legs! Below find 5 easy ways to add some variation to your sex-life in a way that doesn't require you to buy any intense latex suits or the 50 Shades of Grey audio book.
Start With Yourself
As Ru Paul astutely said "If you don't love yourself, how in the hell you gonna love somebody else?" Well, the same could be said for sex. If you're not taking the time to touch yourself and get to know what feels amazing and what leaves a lot to be desired, how can you ever know how good branding out sexually can feel?
Even though masturbation doesn't carry the stigma it used to in society, we all are apprehensive to admit we do it, let alone seek out how varied and amazing it can be.
Masturbation is like sex but not caring if the other person cums and also not being called a dick about it! Lean in, touch yourself, and unlock the next stage in your sexual revolution.
Expand Your Prospects
If you're the type of person who loves to stick to one group of people to sleep with (for example, if you'll only sleep with Latin daddies with big dicks) try and switch it up! Variety is the spice of life and closing yourself off from any group of people is severely limiting your sexual menu.
Even if you're a twink and you don't usually sleep with other twinks--give it a shot! You never know how people will surprise you and completely altering your preconceived ideas of what makes a hot sex partner could add dimensions to a boring, old routine.
Research New Types of Porn
While the major porn studios consistently put out extremely hot content, the internet has allowed everyone in on the porn-making game. From OnlyFans to amateur Tumblr porn blog, the selection of what you can view has never been greater.
Take some time to sample new sex positions, styles, and kinks all from the comfort of your home. This is perhaps the easiest way to gauge if something new is for you. Of course, seeing and doing are always two different things, but watching new styles of porn will get your brain churning on what is a big turn on and what are things you'd never give the time of day.
Buy Some Toys
Its 2018, so if you don't own at least 1 sex toy at home then I feel extremely sorry for yourself because there is truly no excuse why you should confine yourself to the pleasures your hands solely could provide. In today's online marketplace, you don't even need to work up the courage to wander into your local sex store; you can just click a few buttons and have it delivered discretely to your front door.
Experiment With Partners
The biggest component of sex is communication, so when things are getting stale in the bedroom, the easiest thing to do is to ask your partner or partners what new things they've always fantasized about trying. Sure, their answers may be outside your realm of knowledge, or perhaps not be something you'd be willing to try, but it will open up that channel of communication.
When you're able to express your desires and wants to your partner, that is when sex starts getting extremely interesting and thrilling. Without inhibitions and fear of judgement, you'll find your mind and body freeing in ways you never knew it could.
Have any suggestions on how to spice up a stale sex life? Sound off in the comments below!