Hey, Agatha! So, the other night at dinner me (32, Male) and my boyfriend (36, M) got a little tipsy and topic of fisting came up. I casually mention that, unlike him, I had tried fisting once when I was younger and wilder. His reaction was... concerning. He immediately became a bit cold and distant. He changed the subject, and that was yesterday and we still haven't talked about it. I think maybe he felt jealousy of some kind? He's still acting a bit aloof. Our sex is pretty vanilla so maybe he feels that he's not as wild and crazy as my former lovers. We've been dating for over a year, but I've been a bit conservative in terms of telling him about the full extent of my sexual history. So please, Agatha what can I do make my distant fisting not ruin my relationship?!
Love, Mark.
First and foremost, let me just say that communication is the bedazzled key to any healthy and fulfilling relationship. So, kudos to you for reaching out and seeking some guidance. Now, let's get to the heart of the matter.
It sounds like your boyfriend's feathers got ruffled because he's comparing his own experiences to yours. And let me tell you, comparing apples to sequined oranges never ends well! Remember, love, we all have our own unique journeys and timelines when it comes to self-discovery and sexual exploration.
Your boyfriend's "wild side" might not be the same as yours, and that's perfectly fine. Embrace the fact that you two are on different paths, and it's the merging of those paths that makes your relationship truly special. Celebrate your differences, darlin'!
Now, when it comes to intimacy, it's not about checking off a list of sexual feats. It's about the emotional connection, the chemistry, and the love you share with your partner. Each encounter you have together is a chance to create a special moment, regardless of what you may or may not have done in the past.
So, my advice is to have an open, honest, and loving conversation with your beau. Reassure him that he's the one who sets your heart ablaze and that you're excited to explore new frontiers together. Encourage him to share his desires and fantasies, and be open to exploring them at a pace that feels comfortable for both of you.
Remember, dear Mark, love is a journey, not a destination. And it's the love, laughter, and the freedom to be authentically yourself that truly makes your sexual encounters magical.
Now go forth, be fabulous, and keep the flame of love burning brighter than a disco ball on a Saturday night! Cheers, darling!
XOXO,
Agatha đź’‹
