Ditching Grooming to Go Natural?
Article by Maya Vukovska
Everyone wants to look good - no matter if they are supermodels or your 85-year-old aunt who still won’t leave home without lipstick and her hair done. And for some gay men, personal grooming is not just a part of the daily body maintenance routine, it’s a religion. The COVID-19 outbreak not only turned our lives upside down but also drastically changed our grooming habits. The pandemic uprooted our ways of being in this world and altered our perspective on the importance of looks, and the perception of beauty in general. At some point, it became not only pointless to dye your grey roots or remove your body and facial hair, but also empowering in some way. It wasn’t about the money - people just stopped giving a flying fuck about whether they’d be seen in their PJs on the street or without perfect make-up during a Zoom corporate meeting. The more the hair grew out, the more they got used to it, and the more they felt like ‘Finally, it’s me, it’s who I am - no pretenses, no false eyelashes, no nothing!’ With the pandemic being mostly over, most of us have quickly returned to our old selves and the lifestyle we were used to before the shit hit the fan. Others, however, embraced the new trend of being “all-natural”, and have stuck to it ever since. Of course, there is nothing wrong with being au naturel, but what is concerning though is that many gay men, being part of the societal caste famous for their exquisite taste for fashion and style, are now ditching even the basic hygienic habits in order to promote self-love and individuality. Recently, I came upon a reader’s letter published in a popular gay-orientated online magazine. A man was complaining about his boyfriend who had recently decided to embrace his “natural” side: he stopped wearing deodorant, only shampooed his hair once a month, and sent the trimmer into indefinite exile. According to the anonymous “plaintiff”, the boyfriend uses only natural soap which smells even worse than his armpits and brushes his teeth only when he feels like it. With all factors combined, Mr. Anonymous doesn’t find him attractive anymore, sow now, he is facing a dilemma: Should he break up with “the smelly cat” or try to adjust to his new lifestyle? I very much doubt that this private case will have a happy ending because first of all, I can’t imagine how you make out with someone with B.O. And second of all, studies have confirmed that hygiene is an issue that either makes or breaks a relationship or a dating connection if not executed properly. Here are some of the issues that are considered deal-breakers when it comes to hygiene habits and dating.