If your sexual proclivities are, let's say, vanilla, then you probably look upon those porno videos of dudes tied up in ropes and byzantine metal contraptions and feel pity for the poor boys. Mustn't they be miserable, unable to move freely and with that humiliating gag stuffed down their throat, totally prone to the whims of whatever horny daddies may be in the vicinity? Well friend, I'm here to tell you that boys in bondage should not be the subject of your pity, but your envy! Here's why. First of all, we're assuming that everyone is playing by the rules. Engaging in BDSM play with a partner, or even say--a half dozen leather-clad bears upstairs above some bar in San Francisco--requires good communication and clear and concise consent across the board. Always use a safe word, blah blah blah--you guys get it. The point is, don't be afraid to try it even if you're nervous! There is always a way to do these seemingly sinister acts with compassion and caution. Don't worry babe, daddy is gonna start you off easy and we'll work your way up to more advanced positions. So what exactly is the appeal? Well, when you're in bondage, you're giving over complete control to your dom. You are 100% powerless, and that's... kinda nice. In a world where we're all constantly overwhelmed by choice and agonizing over stressful decision-making, it can be extremely enjoyable to just surrender your autonomy for a little while and go with the flow. It's like meditation, except your ass will be sore and red afterwards. Similarly, latex can cover and obscure your body, thus rendering you effectively devoid and autonomy AND individuality. You're immobile, you're unrecognizable, and you're incommunicable. You're just a silhouette with a cock. It's like being in one of those sensory deprivation float chambers, except you get to have an orgasm (if your master is feeling magnanimous.) These days with a world of uncertainty, misery, and lockdowns, acceptance is tough... but it's a lot easier with ornate Japanese knots and latex gimp hoods. In that case, you don't really have any choice. You're FORCED to just relax and enjoy the moment. Sex has always had healing powers, but today's weird world calls for weird sex to help balance the karmic disruptions. There's no reason to feel shame or fear over indulging in your fantasies. If bondage still doesn't sound appealing to you, then you may truly by a top to your core. In which case, try tapping into your inner sadist and give your bottom a night to remember forever! Just remember that sweet, loving aftercare is just as important as maniacal punishment. As with everything in life, balance is key!
January 19, 2021 — Andrew Christian
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