How to explore your sexuality... without a partner to fuck

Article written by Maya Vukovska

I prefer bottoming, I use Swiss butter as a lubricant, I don’t like scented candles while I fuck, I am not into bondage and rimming, but I gladly opt for spanking and frosting. Exploring your sexuality, and continuously seeking out what works best for you is the key to a healthy lifestyle. Understanding your unique sexual preferences and desires helps you generate a better sexual experience. And the good news is that you don't necessarily need a partner. So let the experimenting begin!

Embrace your insecurity and take your pick

Sexual exploration should start with the simplest step - finding out who and what excites you the most. You may think that all your life you have been attracted to one particular type of men, but we suggest that you seriously question your liking and consider other options. By watching different types of porn videos your horizon will expand, and you will be surprised to find out that you are actually attracted to people you never thought of before. Sex is fluid and if you allow yourself to explore multiple sexual practices, this will send you outside the boundaries of the person you thought you are.

Change your masturbation habits

Nobody can know better than you what takes you to cloud nine. Of course, you’ve masturbated many times, but now it’s time to change the routine. Try to put into practice these tips.

You’ve been jerking off in the same position for years, and like any other habit, it has become prosaic and boring. If you are a sitter, try doing it in a standing or lying position. You may be skeptical about it and you may doubt you are going to cum as quickly and good as you are used to, but we can guarantee that changing position can actually get you a harder erection. That’s due to the fact that standing, for example, improves your pelvic floor muscle tone, hence the blood flood to your cock.

Probably, you’ve been paying attention only to your penis and ignoring other body zones, the proper stimulation of which can be immensely rewarding. Let’s take the perineum, for example. That’s the small skin area between the anus and the scrotum. Some like to call it the male G-spot because it has massive orgasmic potential. It may seem awkward to you to explore this particular area of your body, but do it anyway. Do it under the shower, for example, where you’re comfortably naked and your hands are wet and warm. Apply pressure with your middle and index finger until you feel they dig into the taint. Include your pelvic and rectum muscles, and within a minute or so, you’ll feel contractions of your balls.

With time, you’ll get more relaxed about this masturbation practice. At some point, you can replace the fingers with a vibrating sex toy, and apply pressure on the perineum with it while stroking your cock. A totally different, Olympian kind of orgasm is guaranteed!

Мen who identify as straight make the mistake to regarding their butts as a no-touch/no-trespass zone. Thus, they miss out on a grand source of pleasure. But you, as a gay man, must know that anus is the king and one doesn't need a partner to enjoy playing in its kingdom. Butts have many nerve endings and stimulating them feels good. If you are ready to explore your butt even further, you can try reaching your prostate, but this time directly, by sliding a finger first-knuckle deep inside the rectum.

Spice up your solo play

The fact that you are missing a partner doesn’t mean that you can’t experience anal sex, although it will be in its solo version. You just need a masturbation sleeve. It’s a great surrogate of an ass or a mouth because it is a tube-shaped sex toy the inside of which is made of skin-like material, and using it feels like penetrating a real person’s butt.

Another way to galvanize your sexual exploration is by getting yourself out of your comfort zone and masturbate in unconventional places where you’ve never done it before. Doing it at the office, in your car, in the airplane bathroom, or even in a house of worship will add danger and adrenaline to the whole experience and make it more exciting.

All in all, sexual exploration and experimentation without a partner can open up the door to a broader understanding of your physical, emotional, and social attitudes and behavior.