Article written by Kendra Beltran

Anyone that has watched a movie of the adult variety knows that dirty talk can be well, sometimes a bit much. So much to the point that it makes us common folk seem like we just cannot do it on THAT level. Here’s the thing though. Dirty talk doesn’t have to be as extreme as our porn counterparts make it out to be. So for those who have been a little intimidated to be dirty, vocally, in the bedroom...never fear, because there are plenty of ways to ease into dirty talk!

Sexting

If you’re like me, talking with the written word is your jam. You could say whatever the hell you want in a text but in person, talk about a panic attack! For those of us like that, use texting as a starting point towards your journey to having the filthiest bedroom talk out there. Sexting also allows you to bounce ideas off your partner, or even potential partners so you can kind of gauge what to and what not to say once you’re face to face.

Role Play

Some aren’t quite comfortable being themselves, so they immerse themselves in fantasy worlds. Cosplaying, video games, all that jazz...you can take those concepts and twist them into some fun and interesting role play ideas. So that when you talk dirty, it’s not necessarily you saying those things but rather the character you’re portraying.

Don’t Force It

If talking dirty isn’t your norm, do not go from 0 to 100. That’ll only make things get awkward, fast. If you’re not feeling it right away, take a few steps back. There is nothing wrong with pumping the breaks on something you’re just not into at the moment.

Talk It Out Beforehand

If you and your partner are comfortable enough with one another, you should be able to have a chat about dirty talk before your clothes are even off. Ask them if it’s something they’d like to try in the bedroom and then make sure to have follow-up questions like, what they do and don’t like mentioned or words that are just total turn-offs for them - and you!

Make Mental Flashcards

Not everyone can be all spur of the moment sexually. Some of us need to nerd out and study! Think of a few words and phrases beforehand and bank them so that you can utilize them when needed.

Get Descriptive

You can turn your ass into the narrator of your sexcapades. I mean, you don’t have to be like, “Take those socks off.” No, don’t give the actual play-by-play but rather explain how things are going to go while in the moment.

Get Questionable

Ask your partner things like, “What do you want me to do with your cock?” Perhaps even, “Would you like me to top you?” Asking questions not only gets those dirty words out but also helps guide the night. It will hopefully also encourage your partner to do the same so they can then return the sexual favors you’ve been dishing out.

Make a Request

If your partner hasn’t picked up on asking you questions to gauge what in the hell you want out of the night, then start to treat the night like ‘90s radio and make some requests. Your body wants the hits and theirs is the Top 40.

Use a Sultry Voice

We switch the way we talk all the time from when we’re at work to when we’re around family, so why not have a sexier tone while trying to get it on?

Read Erotica

Crack open a book that some horny housewife would have on their nightstand and learn a thing or two about how to have a dirty mouth.

November 09, 2021 — Andrew Christian
Tags: Sex Tips