We've all had this experience. You open up a seemingly innocuous DM or Snapchat, and--BOOM--a big fat erect cock appears from out of the blue right in front of your face. Depending on your level of preparation, the nature of your relationship with the guy, and the quality of pic, your reaction can range from feeling like you've had the wind knocked out of you, to disgust, indignation, or you might actually be into it.

Is it ever okay to send unsolicited nudes? The short answer: generally not. But there are some caveats. First, it's important to make the distinction between heterosexual dick pics exchanges and homoerotic ones. When the cock snapshot is being transferred from a man to a woman, there is an inherent power imbalance that makes unsolicited dick pics automatically very creepy. It can be argued however, that since pretty much all gay men generally like to see penises, sending an unsolicited dick pic isn't as big of a deal.

Context is very important. Sending a dick pic very early in a relationship indicates that you either A) are only interested in sex or B) don't respect him very much. Foreplay, mood-building, romance, etc.--these all go out the window when you fire off a sloppily composed cock shot five minutes after matching with him. So even if feels less like an actually assault, it still doesn't mean you should do it.

So when would it ever possibly be okay to send an unsolicited dick pic? Well, it seems to me there is an appropriate time and place. If you're in an established, healthy relationship with someone, a surprise dick pic can be just the thing to get you through a depressing Monday afternoon at the office. If you know for a fact that he wants to see your cock, then by all means spread the love! A sweet little reminder that your man is hard thinking about you across town, well, if that's wrong that I don't wanna be right.

The bottom line is, always be thoughtful with your dick pics. You can't just be wholesale exporting lithographs of your cock all willy-nilly. Be mindful, and above all, make sure that they're good photos. A disembodied poorly-lit ballsack will never be that hot, but a full-body nude with that includes your sweet cock and cute smile--well, how could I refuse that? ;)