Article by Ben Haynes

We all want a man who exudes confidence.

When thinking of a confident man, who imagines a beautiful, chiseled man with bulging biceps and a massive chest? Do we think of a guy with a deep voice, a prominent bulge in his pants, and someone who floats when they walk?

It's easy to get caught up in the physical aspects of what attracts us to men. But honestly, it's how the man carries himself that we flock toward. Confidence is key, but at what point does it go too far?

Confidence: The Ultimate Sex Appeal

A confident man does not need to tell others he is confident, as it’s evident and apparent in almost everything he does. Men who are confident and secure with themselves are unbothered by what others do with their lives and time. These types of men are focused on their goals and abilities and are always looking for ways to improve themselves.

This type of man fills his time bettering himself physically, emotionally, mentally, and spiritually. He is never satisfied with less than his best and works tirelessly to provide his best efforts for himself and others. These men live authentically and have worked hard to learn who they are and what they want from life.

This type of energy is incredibly sexy, and we find ourselves drawn to and inspired by it every time. Sex with men like this is usually incredibly hot and satisfying. These men are givers by nature, so be ready for passion.

Arrogance: A Major Boner-Killer

Conversely, guys who display a strong sense of arrogance are an instant red flag.

These types of guys often brag about their accomplishments and abilities. They put themselves on a pedestal for all to see and frequently use “I” language, often ignoring the help they received to get where they are. They talk over others and are incredibly dismissive and argumentative when challenged about anything.

The arrogant guys we meet feel the need to talk about everything remarkable they’re doing but rarely ever have anything of substance to show for it.

These guys should be avoided at all costs. They can be master manipulators and will try to pull you down into the dirt with them. Any sexual encounter with them will probably leave you feeling used. They are "takers" by nature, so your needs matter very little to them.

Who you surround yourself with says a lot about you. Always exercise caution and be sure to get to know who someone is at their core.