7 Hotter Sex Tips Bottoms Wish Their Tops Knew
We all know there’s a lot of secret sauce that goes into a solid top-bottom dynamic, but sometimes, ok maybe a lot more than sometimes, there are things bottoms desperately wish their tops would know, do or acknowledge. Truly our sweetnesses, it’s not all about thrusting and flexing—though we do LOVE that— there’s a skill and an art to being a top that’s worth it to master..
Whether you’re new to topping or you’re a certified manslut that has a queue out your bedroom door, let us give you a run down of our seven hottest sex tips that bottoms wish their tops really understood. Because trust me, when you nail these, you’ll be more than just a good top—you’ll be the tippy top top. (And, yup, we wrote that, and are gone just leave it there. I’ll await my writing awards).
We Just Spent All Afternoon Cleaning Out Our Hole, Your Tongue Better Go In It
Bottoming isn’t just spreading our legs and getting railed. There is a whole pre game ritual that goes into it. We just spent all afternoon turning our insides into a crystal clear chamber of carnal pleasure, and believe, it’s an ordeal. So, when
it’s go-time, don’t act like we just prepped this canvas for you to cum dump and leave. Show some appreciation—get down there and worship our hole with the reverence it deserves. And, we mean with your tongue, your mouth and those lush lips. Rim us like you mean it, tongue fuck us till we cry, because after all that work, we deserve it.
We cleaned up for you, now make us feel it was worth the effort.
You Can’t Use Enough Lube
Bruh’s, this should be a given, but it needs to be said: you cannot use enough lube. Seriously, that 3oz bottle isn’t meant to last 3 years. You shouldn’t be
planning for it’s future in your will. Trust, most are not sitting here, hoping for a sandpaper ride. A well-lubed experience is a mind-blowing one. Again, don’t think a couple of squirts will do the trick, slather that silky smooth liquid on. Get it deep in our hole with your fingers or a toy. Lube not only makes things more comfortable, but it can also enhance sensation for both parties. Plus, no one’s ever complained about things being too smooth.
Spit Is Not Lube
Again, sweet goddess above, can not believe we got say this, but, for those in the way back: spit is not lube. I know, right???—it looks super hot in porn when you spit in your hand and get all shades of filthy nasty. But, no, let’s save that for the fantasy world because in real life, spit dries up faster than a stream in the desert. Sure, it’s cute for a second, and could serve a purpose for a bathroom stall ultra quick cum and go, but after that? It’s a fast track to discomfort. Do us all a favor and reach for the lube instead.
Note: if you and your partner want to use spit because it’s your zexy kinky thing, by all means, go ahead—just promise you’ll hit that aftercare hard. K?
It’s All About the Right Position
Not every position works for every body, and that’s okay. When it comes to sex, it’s all about finding the right position that gets all parties off. Not just ones you’ve seen that look cool. You gotta sort that through trail and error. Some positions give us the best angle for you to hit that glorious spot that has us writhing like wanton whores, and others? Not so much.
No, I don’t want to be fucked in a headstand, thanks, but maybe someone else does. Experiment with positions until you find one that makes us arch our back, moan, and melt under you. Whether it’s doggy style, missionary, or something you saw in an acrobatics class—just make sure you’re hitting that spot.
Longer Foreplay, Please
If you’re thinking, “Foreplay? Isn’t that what we do for three minutes while we are shoving your face into the mattress, before the we jam it in?” Uh… no. You’re doing it wrong, baby. For bottoms, especially, foreplay gets us mentally and physically ready for what’s about to go down. That means more kissing, more teasing, more touching, and yeah, more oral. Like LOTS more… Don’t rush the build-up. By the time you’re sliding in, we should be practically begging for it, clawing at the sheets, not still wondering if you realize we are more than just a hole.
Slow it up, take your time exploring every inch of our body. Make it an odyssey, not a speed run. If you’re not turning us into a puddle of need, you’re missing babes.
Talk Dirty
Nothing, and I mean nothing, gets us hotter than dirty talk. And not the “You like that, huh?” kind of stuff—no. We want real dirty talk. The dirtier, the better. Tell us what you want to do to us, tell us how we look from behind, tell us how much you’ve been thinking about us. Words like “Mine.”, “So good for me.”, “Beg for it.” “Such a good needy boy.” “Gonna fill you with my cum, breed you.” “I want you to feel me every step you take tomorrow.” When we’re in the moment, there’s nothing hotter than hearing you lose control and say the filthiest things you can come up with.
A Little Aftercare Never Hurt Anybody
You know what’s hotter than a wild, sweaty romp? A little post-sex cuddle. Aftercare might sound all soft and sweet, because it is— and it makes a difference. You just had us laid out, trembling, and possibly seeing stars. So take a few minutes to hold us, kiss our forehead, and tell us how amazing we are. It doesn’t have to be a whole Hallmark moment, but come on, a little affection post-ravaging is sexy as hell.
There you go you swarthy tops: seven tips every top needs to know to become the kind of lover we'll be texting about to our friends for days. Stick to these, and I promise you, every bottom in your life will be thanking you in ways you can only imagine.