By Eris Chase
 

We all know there’s a lot of secret sauce that goes into a solid top-bottom  dynamic, but sometimes, ok maybe a lot more than sometimes, there are  things bottoms desperately wish their tops would know, do or acknowledge.  Truly our sweetnesses, it’s not all about thrusting and flexing—though we do  LOVE that— there’s a skill and an art to being a top that’s worth it to master..  

Whether you’re new to topping or you’re a certified manslut that has a queue  out your bedroom door, let us give you a run down of our seven hottest sex  tips that bottoms wish their tops really understood. Because trust me, when  you nail these, you’ll be more than just a good top—you’ll be the tippy top top.  (And, yup, we wrote that, and are gone just leave it there. I’ll await my writing  awards).  

We Just Spent All Afternoon Cleaning Out Our Hole, Your Tongue Better  Go In It  

Bottoming isn’t just spreading our legs and getting railed. There is a whole pre game ritual that goes into it. We just spent all afternoon turning our insides into  a crystal clear chamber of carnal pleasure, and believe, it’s an ordeal. So, when  

it’s go-time, don’t act like we just prepped this canvas for you to cum dump and  leave. Show some appreciation—get down there and worship our hole with the  reverence it deserves. And, we mean with your tongue, your mouth and those  lush lips. Rim us like you mean it, tongue fuck us till we cry, because after all  that work, we deserve it.  

We cleaned up for you, now make us feel it was worth the effort.  

You Can’t Use Enough Lube  

Bruh’s, this should be a given, but it needs to be said: you cannot use enough  lube. Seriously, that 3oz bottle isn’t meant to last 3 years. You shouldn’t be 

planning for it’s future in your will. Trust, most are not sitting here, hoping for a  sandpaper ride. A well-lubed experience is a mind-blowing one. Again, don’t  think a couple of squirts will do the trick, slather that silky smooth liquid on. Get  it deep in our hole with your fingers or a toy. Lube not only makes things more  comfortable, but it can also enhance sensation for both parties. Plus, no one’s  ever complained about things being too smooth.  

Spit Is Not Lube  

Again, sweet goddess above, can not believe we got say this, but, for those in  the way back: spit is not lube. I know, right???—it looks super hot in porn when  you spit in your hand and get all shades of filthy nasty. But, no, let’s save that for  the fantasy world because in real life, spit dries up faster than a stream in the  desert. Sure, it’s cute for a second, and could serve a purpose for a bathroom  stall ultra quick cum and go, but after that? It’s a fast track to discomfort. Do us  all a favor and reach for the lube instead.  

Note: if you and your partner want to use spit because it’s your zexy kinky  thing, by all means, go ahead—just promise you’ll hit that aftercare hard. K?  

It’s All About the Right Position  

Not every position works for every body, and that’s okay. When it comes to sex,  it’s all about finding the right position that gets all parties off. Not just ones  you’ve seen that look cool. You gotta sort that through trail and error. Some  positions give us the best angle for you to hit that glorious spot that has us  writhing like wanton whores, and others? Not so much.  

No, I don’t want to be fucked in a headstand, thanks, but maybe someone else  does. Experiment with positions until you find one that makes us arch our back,  moan, and melt under you. Whether it’s doggy style, missionary, or something  you saw in an acrobatics class—just make sure you’re hitting that spot. 

Longer Foreplay, Please  

If you’re thinking, “Foreplay? Isn’t that what we do for three minutes while we  are shoving your face into the mattress, before the we jam it in?” Uh… no.  You’re doing it wrong, baby. For bottoms, especially, foreplay gets us mentally  and physically ready for what’s about to go down. That means more kissing,  more teasing, more touching, and yeah, more oral. Like LOTS more… Don’t  rush the build-up. By the time you’re sliding in, we should be practically  begging for it, clawing at the sheets, not still wondering if you realize we are  more than just a hole.  

Slow it up, take your time exploring every inch of our body. Make it an odyssey,  not a speed run. If you’re not turning us into a puddle of need, you’re missing  babes.  

Talk Dirty  

Nothing, and I mean nothing, gets us hotter than dirty talk. And not the “You  like that, huh?” kind of stuff—no. We want real dirty talk. The dirtier, the better.  Tell us what you want to do to us, tell us how we look from behind, tell us how  much you’ve been thinking about us. Words like “Mine.”, “So good for me.”,  “Beg for it.” “Such a good needy boy.” “Gonna fill you with my cum, breed you.”  “I want you to feel me every step you take tomorrow.” When we’re in the  moment, there’s nothing hotter than hearing you lose control and say the  filthiest things you can come up with.  

A Little Aftercare Never Hurt Anybody  

You know what’s hotter than a wild, sweaty romp? A little post-sex cuddle.  Aftercare might sound all soft and sweet, because it is— and it makes a  difference. You just had us laid out, trembling, and possibly seeing stars. So  take a few minutes to hold us, kiss our forehead, and tell us how amazing we  are. It doesn’t have to be a whole Hallmark moment, but come on, a little  affection post-ravaging is sexy as hell. 

There you go you swarthy tops: seven tips every top needs to know to become  the kind of lover we'll be texting about to our friends for days. Stick to these,  and I promise you, every bottom in your life will be thanking you in ways you  can only imagine.

October 18, 2024 — Andrew Christian
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