7 Tips to Be Dominant, Not Just Sassy

Let’s get real for a hot second, boo: saying you’re dominant because you slapped a thigh and growled like a constipated bear doesn’t mean you’re bringing Big Dom Energy™ to the table. Dominance isn’t about shouting “WHO’S YOUR DADDY” while fumbling to find the lube—it’s an art form, a vibe, a presence. And honey, if you’re looking to go from sassy queen to king of the jungle, grab a seat and take notes.

1. Confidence, Not Cockiness

Nobody’s swooning over a “dom” who spends more time flexing in the mirror than connecting with their partner. True dominance radiates quiet confidence. It’s about knowing what you bring to the table and not needing to scream about it. Walk into the room like you own it, but don’t be a diva about it.

2. Set the Mood Like an Expert

You can’t be dominant if your vibe screams “freshman dorm room.” Light a candle, put on some sultry tunes (no, your party playlist doesn’t count), and make your space feel as irresistible as you are. Dominance starts with making someone feel desired and safe—before you even lay a hand on them.

3. Know What You Want (and Communicate It)

Being dominant doesn’t mean barking orders like a chaotic drill sergeant. It’s about clarity. Know what you want and let your partner know, too. “Take off your shirt” hits differently when it’s whispered in a low, commanding voice instead of squawked like a bad karaoke performance.

4. It’s About Them, Not Just You

If your idea of dominance is busting your nut and hitting the Uber app faster than a Starbucks mobile order, we need to talk. A true dom focuses on their partner’s pleasure, not just their own. Listen to their body, learn what makes them tick, and make it all about claiming them—mind, body, and soul.

5. Don’t Fake It ‘Til You Break It

Newsflash: choking someone like you’re opening a pickle jar isn’t sexy—it’s terrifying. If you’re going to incorporate kink or power dynamics, know what you’re doing. Research. Talk. Practice. There’s nothing more dominant than knowing your stuff and ensuring both of you are safe and turned on.

6. Be Dominant Outside the Bedroom

Real dominance doesn’t switch off after the sheets are messy. It’s about taking charge in life, too. Plan the date. Pick the restaurant. Hold the door open. Protect their best interests. You’re not just a dom when the lights go off—you’re always a dom. Show them that you’ve got their back in and out of the bedroom.

7. Leave Them Weak in the Knees (Literally)

True dominance is about leaving a lasting impression—not just on their body but on their soul. When you’re done, they should feel like you’ve taken a piece of them with you (not in a creepy way, though—calm down, Edward Cullen). It’s not about dominating their body; it’s about claiming their entire experience.

Dominance isn’t a role you play—it’s a part of who you are. It’s about respect, connection, and power, not just a slap-and-go routine. So before you call yourself “DomTop69” on your next dating app bio, take a minute to ask yourself: am I bringing real dominance to the table, or am I just serving sass with a side of ego?

Remember, darling: true dominance leaves them begging for more, not begging you to leave. 💋