Are bisexual men for real?
Article written by Maya Vukovska
At the dawn of the last century, the father of psychoanalysis Sigmund Freud was the first to make the claim that bisexuality is a common inclination. According to him, homo- and heterosexuality develop from this original disposition. Although his daring theory has challenged conventional thinking, many people even today refuse to recognize the existence of bisexuality. To them, bisexuality is just a funny phase some bored people are going through. As for those men, who fuck with dudes all the time, but still insist they are bi… Bitch, please! Nobody believes such bushwa! Straight women are annoyed with bi-men because they tend to feed on the juiciest meat pieces in the cock soup. Straight men have a grudge with them, too, for the same reason - they are strong competition in the pussy chase. Even homosexuals throw them under the bus because, in their eyes, bi-men are just full-blown gays who use the bisexuality crap as an excuse for not coming out of the closet.
But let’s not just yet jump to conclusions. The enigma still stays unsolved: Are bisexual men frauds, or are they for real?
Myths vs. reality
One of the most widespread myths is that bi-men are traitors to the gay rights movement, and do their best to pass as straight to avoid trouble and take advantage of heterosexual privileges. Yes, there certainly are Judas among them, and this is not OK. But politicizing sexuality is also wrong. As a matter of fact, male bisexuals are equally committed to various gay/lesbian/bi causes. Otherwise, why would they care to put a B in the LGBTQ+ abbreviation !?
Another popular myth is that bisexual men are nobody’s favorite neighbors, friends, and colleagues because they are perceived as concurrent lovers by both sexes. However, the truth is that bisexuals may have indeed lovers from both sexes, but it does not mean that they need to be with them all the time in order to feel sexually fulfilled. In fact, some bi men can be monogamous and ONLY dream of making love to someone of the opposite sex than the one of their current partner.
My personal favorite myth about bisexuals is that they are promiscuous swingers who are attracted to every human being they lay eyes on. What, really!? Promiscuity is not more frequent in the bisexual population than it is in other groups of people.
The Kinsey Theory
Between 2000 and 2019, eight studies on male bisexuality were carried out. The most recent study conducted at the Northwestern University of Evanston came to the conclusion that sexuality exists on a continuum. The participants in the Northwestern University study were arranged in four categories depending on how they described themselves: as “exclusively heterosexual,” “mostly straight,” “mostly gay,” and “bisexual.” Researchers measured the extent of their sexual arousal in response to male and female erotic stimuli. Porn, in other words. The research team’s findings supported Alfred Kinsey’s theory of 1948 according to which sexual orientation is distributed on a 7-point scale, where 0 is being 100% straight and 6 - as gay as a meatball. They found out that guys who rated themselves as Kinsey 2s, i.e. very much straight, had a celebratory response to gay porn. This, of course, doesn’t make them gay, but more like socially hesitant to publicly announce their bisexual disposition.
Well, it seems that our old chap Alfred might have been right after all. There is such thing as sexuality spectrum, and people’s sexual orientation resists easy classification.
The B-word in TV and cinema
You may have never had a bisexual male friend, but of course, you’ve watched a bunch of movies where mainstream monosexuality has been questioned. And here’re just a few examples.
Remember our friend Alfred Kinsey? Well, the guy’s so famous for his sexual expression scale, that in 2004, they made a movie about him with Liam Neeson starring as the adult Kinsey.
In 1972 Bob Fosse’s musical Cabaret, Michael York plays a bisexual teacher and writer who’s trying to navigate two complicated relationships. But I honestly don’t remember if he succeeds, or not.
In the French musical Love Songs (2007), basically, everyone is bisexual. The focus is on three young people, Ismael, Julie, and Alice, who are in a polyamorous relationship. But what can you say - it’s the French way…
In Crazy Ex-Girlfriend (2015-2019), Pete Gardner’s character, Darryl, is an openly bi-sexual lawyer. One of his notable quotes is: “I’m going for drinks with this gay man, whom I have a crush on.”
The list goes on, and on.
And just remember: “bisexual,” “gay,” “lesbian,” etc. are just labels. Our sexuality, however, is not a number we get from the ticket dispenser at the bank. It’s a fluidity thing on a large spectrum.