Dear Agatha,

I’m a 30-year-old guy, and I have a bit of a dilemma. I’ve always been drawn to dating younger guys, specifically those in the 18-23 age range. It’s not that I’m trying to relive my youth or anything; it’s just what I’m naturally attracted to. But lately, I’ve started to wonder if this makes me a creep.

I’ve got a stable job in tech, hobbies and friends my age. I’m outgoing, enjoy a good laugh, and my friends often say I have an old soul. But this dating preference has me second-guessing myself.

Is it weird for a 30-year-old like me to prefer dating guys who are significantly younger? Am I being creepy? Help me out here, Agatha.




First things first, you’re not a creep for having a dating preference. Age gaps in relationships can certainly raise eyebrows, but they don’t automatically make you a villain in a Lifetime movie. It’s all about context, intention, and mutual respect.

Here’s the lowdown:

  1. Mutual Consent: As long as everything is consensual and both parties are on the same page, you’re starting off on the right foot. If you’re open and honest about your intentions and the younger guy you’re dating is too, then you’ve got the green light from me.

  2. Power Dynamics: Be mindful of any power imbalances. Age can sometimes come with differences in life experience, financial stability, or emotional maturity. Make sure that these differences don’t create an unhealthy dynamic. Relationships thrive on equality and mutual respect, not on one person having all the control.

  3. Intentions Matter: Are you genuinely interested in a meaningful relationship with these younger guys, or is it just about their age? If it’s the former, fabulous! If it’s the latter, you might want to do a little soul-searching. Genuine attraction is wonderful, but it should be about the person, not just their birth year.

  4. Longevity: Think about the future. If you’re only interested in someone because they fit a certain age bracket, what happens when they grow older? Make sure your attraction is rooted in something deeper than just their age.

Now, darling Tyler, if you’re connecting with younger guys because you enjoy their energy, perspectives, and the way they make you feel, then there’s no shame in that. Just remember, relationships are about connection, compatibility, and mutual respect. Age is just a number, but how you treat each other is what truly matters.

So go forth, enjoy your coffee dates and gym sessions, and don’t let societal judgments dictate your happiness. Just be honest with yourself and your partners, and you’ll navigate this dating scene like the confident techie you are.

Love, laughter, and a dash of fabulousness,

Agatha 💋

June 26, 2024 — Andrew Christian
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