Dear Agatha,
I'm at a loss here. I'm an eighteen-year-old gay man who lives with my happily-married heterosexual parents, but last night I walked in on my dad and caught him watching some hardcore gay porn. I didn't say anything but he definitely saw me see him. He texted me a few minutes later asking me not to tell my mom. Not sure how I should move forward here. Obviously I wouldn't care that he's gay except for the fact that might be living a lie, and I just don't want my mother to get hurt by this. Any advice would be greatly appreciated!
Sincerely,
Adam
Dear Adam,
Although this may seem like nothing more than an awkward encounter to you, I highly recommend that you talk to your dad about this, even if it's just over text message. And do it soon, because something like this could cause him much mental anguish and could lead him to do something rash. Let him know that whatever he likes to watch on the computer, that's his business. Right now, there's no reason to believe he's cheating on your mother with a man. If he was, that'd be a totally different story. For all we know, he could be bi and your mother could be well aware of his sexuality. But either way, tell him you have no intention of ever revealing this to anyone. Let him know you're happy to talk about this if he wants, but there's also no need. No matter what, you'll still love him.
XOXO,
Agatha
