Hey Agatha,

I’ve been dating this amazing guy for a few months now, and honestly, everything about him is wonderful. We click on every level, and our chemistry is off the charts. There’s just one little (no pun intended) issue—he’s pretty self-conscious about his size down there. Let’s just say he’s not exactly packing.

Here’s the thing, though: I’m really into smaller packages. Like, it seriously turns me on. But I’m worried that if I tell him this, it might just make him feel worse about himself. How do I let him know that I love his size without crushing his confidence? Help me out here, Agatha!



Dear Joe,

First things first, let’s talk about how to approach this delicately yet effectively. You’re right to be cautious; even the most well-intentioned compliment can backfire if not delivered with care. But fret not, my sweet, because Agatha has the perfect recipe for turning this potentially awkward conversation into a confidence-boosting love fest.

The key here is to show, don’t tell. Actions speak louder than words, and in this case, your actions can communicate your desires far more powerfully than any well-meaning chat ever could.

Here’s the plan:

  1. Compliment Away: When you’re in the heat of the moment, shower him with compliments. Tell him how much you love his body and how perfect he is for you. Focus on the positives and make sure he knows just how much he turns you on.

  2. Show Your Enthusiasm: Get hands-on (and mouth-on, if you catch my drift). Show him just how much you love every inch of him. Be vocal about your pleasure. Moan, groan, and let him know just how hot he makes you. Trust me, nothing boosts confidence like knowing your partner is thoroughly enjoying themselves.

  3. Be Intimate: When things are getting steamy, take a moment to whisper sweet nothings in his ear. Tell him how he drives you wild and how you can’t get enough of him. This will help him associate his size with your pleasure.

  4. Get Creative: Use your favorite toys and positions that highlight what you love about his size. This isn’t about hiding anything; it’s about celebrating what makes your intimate moments special.

  5. Encouraging Playfulness: Suggest playful scenarios or role-play where his size is a feature, not a flaw. It could turn his perceived insecurity into a source of mutual enjoyment and fun.

Remember, my dear, the goal here is to make him feel adored and desired. By focusing on the pleasure he brings you and how much you enjoy being with him, you’ll naturally build up his confidence.

Now, if the moment feels right and he’s open to it, you could gently bring up the topic and let him know that his size is a huge turn-on for you. But, and this is crucial, make sure you frame it in a way that celebrates him and your connection rather than comparing him to anyone else.


Agatha 💋

June 05, 2024 — Andrew Christian
Tags: Ask Agatha