By Eris Chase  

Sure, wild kink and throw down filthy fast fucks get all the attention, but the classic basics live in that magical horny space too. A couple of  simple “vanilla” acts should be the primer for all of your copulation  interludes. Yes, whips and chains, bathroom stall blowies, and anonymous  hookups in indiscrete locations excite us, but, so does a smooth, long way  around seduction. Here are our favorite subtle moves that stoke the fires  within.  

1. Holding Hands  

“Seriously… holding hands? How is that hot?” Trust, babes, it can be, and  we did say “basic moves”, remember? There’s something oh so innocent  but thrilling about that simple skin-to-skin connection, fingers lacing  together, thumbs brushing. It’s intimacy in its purest form, and when  done right it can be the start of a whole lot more. More as in, your partner  gives your hand a crushing squeeze right when you’re about to cum?  Suddenly, holding hands doesn’t seem so innocent, does it?  

2. Delicate Kissing  

Not every kiss needs to be a battle of dominating wills. There’s something  ultra sensual about delicate kisses—the kind that barely graze your skin  but still leave you breathless. Soft butterfly light brushes of lips across  your brow, eyelids, inner thighs… *swoon*. It’s teasing at it’s finest.  Tender enough to drive you mad. Add a little eye contact, and an almost  inaudible sigh of desire and, you’ve just weaponized “vanilla.” 

3. Stripping Someone Out of Their Clothes  

Forget tearing clothes off in a rabid frenzy. Buttons flying off expensive  shirts is only hott in the movies or when you didn’t pay for it. Taking your  sweet, sweet time undressing someone is its own art form. Slide their shirt  over their head while your fingertips dance over hard nipples, peel off  their jeans inch by inch while you lick and suck the revealed skin, enjoy  every second of that slow motion exposure. It’s an intimate tension boiler.  Plus, watching someone squirm with neediness while you go agonizingly  slow? Chef’s kiss.  

4. Poetic Dirty Talk  

Dirty talk doesn’t always have to sound like a script from a 70’s porn flick.  Full of “Fuck yes.”, “Ride me.”, “You want my cum?”. Though those are  some of our all-time favorite phrases to fuck to, sometimes, the hottest  thing you can do is paint a picture with florid poetic words instead.  Describe exactly what you’re going to do, how they look, how they feel.  You’ll both be enthralled by how a little “your skin feels like spun silk”,  “your lips taste like the sun at dawn”, “you look like a fallen angel ready to  carry me willingly to the abyss” can redefine what ecstasy feels like.  

5. Missionary Position  

Missionary carries the unfortunate label as being heteronormative and  boring, but it’s THE classic for a reason. There’s power in that full-body  connection—chests pressed together, lips close enough for whispered  words of lust,, eyes locked. Those drops of sweat that fall onto your  parted, moaning lips… watching their reaction the moment you breach  that tight ring of muscle and you both are joined… You need passion?  You crave intense heat? Try missionary with seductive hip rolls, legs wrapped tight, and rhythm that makes your partner arch into you,  writhing and begging for more. Suddenly, the “basic” position feels  anything but.  

“Vanilla” isn’t always dull; it also means classic, timeless, and still  ridiculously hot. Whether it’s hand-holding that makes your fingers twitch  with curiosity, a kiss so delicate it leaves you weak, or some old-school  missionary done with wicked intent; vanilla moves can become a mind bending experience. Next time someone scoffs at keeping it simple,  remind them—sometimes, less really is more and leads to even more.

January 14, 2025 — Andrew Christian
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