Five Basic “Vanilla” Moves That Stoke the Filthy Heat
By Eris Chase
Sure, wild kink and throw down filthy fast fucks get all the attention, but the classic basics live in that magical horny space too. A couple of simple “vanilla” acts should be the primer for all of your copulation interludes. Yes, whips and chains, bathroom stall blowies, and anonymous hookups in indiscrete locations excite us, but, so does a smooth, long way around seduction. Here are our favorite subtle moves that stoke the fires within.
1. Holding Hands
“Seriously… holding hands? How is that hot?” Trust, babes, it can be, and we did say “basic moves”, remember? There’s something oh so innocent but thrilling about that simple skin-to-skin connection, fingers lacing together, thumbs brushing. It’s intimacy in its purest form, and when done right it can be the start of a whole lot more. More as in, your partner gives your hand a crushing squeeze right when you’re about to cum? Suddenly, holding hands doesn’t seem so innocent, does it?
2. Delicate Kissing
Not every kiss needs to be a battle of dominating wills. There’s something ultra sensual about delicate kisses—the kind that barely graze your skin but still leave you breathless. Soft butterfly light brushes of lips across your brow, eyelids, inner thighs… *swoon*. It’s teasing at it’s finest. Tender enough to drive you mad. Add a little eye contact, and an almost inaudible sigh of desire and, you’ve just weaponized “vanilla.”
3. Stripping Someone Out of Their Clothes
Forget tearing clothes off in a rabid frenzy. Buttons flying off expensive shirts is only hott in the movies or when you didn’t pay for it. Taking your sweet, sweet time undressing someone is its own art form. Slide their shirt over their head while your fingertips dance over hard nipples, peel off their jeans inch by inch while you lick and suck the revealed skin, enjoy every second of that slow motion exposure. It’s an intimate tension boiler. Plus, watching someone squirm with neediness while you go agonizingly slow? Chef’s kiss.
4. Poetic Dirty Talk
Dirty talk doesn’t always have to sound like a script from a 70’s porn flick. Full of “Fuck yes.”, “Ride me.”, “You want my cum?”. Though those are some of our all-time favorite phrases to fuck to, sometimes, the hottest thing you can do is paint a picture with florid poetic words instead. Describe exactly what you’re going to do, how they look, how they feel. You’ll both be enthralled by how a little “your skin feels like spun silk”, “your lips taste like the sun at dawn”, “you look like a fallen angel ready to carry me willingly to the abyss” can redefine what ecstasy feels like.
5. Missionary Position
Missionary carries the unfortunate label as being heteronormative and boring, but it’s THE classic for a reason. There’s power in that full-body connection—chests pressed together, lips close enough for whispered words of lust,, eyes locked. Those drops of sweat that fall onto your parted, moaning lips… watching their reaction the moment you breach that tight ring of muscle and you both are joined… You need passion? You crave intense heat? Try missionary with seductive hip rolls, legs wrapped tight, and rhythm that makes your partner arch into you, writhing and begging for more. Suddenly, the “basic” position feels anything but.
“Vanilla” isn’t always dull; it also means classic, timeless, and still ridiculously hot. Whether it’s hand-holding that makes your fingers twitch with curiosity, a kiss so delicate it leaves you weak, or some old-school missionary done with wicked intent; vanilla moves can become a mind bending experience. Next time someone scoffs at keeping it simple, remind them—sometimes, less really is more and leads to even more.