Because sometimes the hottest thing about a man is what’s going on behind those pecs…

Look, we love a man who looks like he was carved by the gods and marinated in protein shakes. But let’s be real, if he looks like a Greek statue but talks like a wet paper towel, we’re swiping left, mama. These days, we’re into substance. Not like… a lot of substance. But enough to make us feel something before we see something.

Here are six underrated, non-physical traits that’ll make us bark louder than seeing him shirtless at Barry’s.

1. Kindness... Like, Actual, Thoughtful Kindness

We’re not talking “he held the door for you once” energy. We’re talking “he remembered your dog’s name from one drunk convo six weeks ago and bought him a birthday treat.” If he makes people feel safe and valued? Yeah, we’re giving him the key to the city… and our bedroom.

2. Humor That Isn’t Just Memes and Sarcasm

If he can make you laugh so hard you snort LaCroix out your nose, and he knows when to be serious? Oh baby, that’s hotter than a mesh tank on a Miami rooftop. Bonus points if he can do voices. Daddy, give me the full one-man show.

3. Emotional Intelligence — A.K.A. He Knows His Feelings AND Doesn’t Make You Manage Them

He’s not just saying “I’m a good communicator,” he’s actually listening. He doesn’t just ghost you when he’s stressed — he says, “Hey, I’m feeling overwhelmed, can we talk tomorrow?” Sir. We will bear your children. (Or at least make you breakfast.)

4. He’s Supportive AF, Not Just When It’s Easy

Does he hype you up before a job interview, text you memes when you’re spiraling, and doesn’t get weird when you cry after watching The Whale? That’s a real one. Lock it down. You can’t spell “husband material” without emotional support king.

5. He’s Curious and Open-Minded (About More Than Positions)

He asks questions. He wants to know what you think. He’s down to try Ethiopian food, a pottery class, and yes, maybe a little light pegging if the vibe is right. Growth mindset? We’re turned on. Personal evolution is the new six-pack.

6. He Treats Service Workers With Respect

He doesn’t just tip 20%. He says “thank you,” learns the barista’s name, and never pulls the “do you know who I am?” at the club. If he’s hot and doesn’t act like a walking red flag when the appetizer is late? King. Icon. Forever crush.

Final Thought

Look, we love a thirst trap just as much as the next girlie. If he's got a big round butt and a perfect cock, sure maybe we'll overlook those red flags long enough for a quickie. But if he’s serving compassion, curiosity, and confidence with a side of thighs for days? That’s the real fantasy. Hot guys are everywhere. But sexy souls? That’s rare, babe.

So next time you’re out here swiping, don’t just look for the abs. Look for the man who’s gonna rub your feet and call his grandma. That’s the kind of top energy we’re manifesting in 2025. 💅