Let’s talk about findom—financial domination, for the uninitiated. If you’ve been scrolling through certain corners of Twitter (fine, X—ugh, still hate saying that) or watching spicy TikToks, you’ve probably seen someone flexing their latest cash drop from some faceless dude named PayPig69. And look, I love the hustle. But somewhere between “I’ll step on you for $50” and “Pay my rent, loser,” a question creeps in: Is this unethical?

Let’s all clutch our pearls and dive in.

First of All, What Even Is Findom?

Findom is basically the kink equivalent of “Thank you, Daddy” but with a Chase wire transfer attached. It’s where one person (the dom) takes financial control or receives money from another person (the sub) as part of a consensual power exchange. Consent is the keyword here, babes.

Sometimes it’s spicy (“Send me $200 or else I’ll block you, worm 🐛”), and sometimes it’s…well, just someone desperately trying to pay off their student loans in stilettos.

But Is It…Wrong?

Listen, morality is subjective, like pineapple on pizza or Nicki vs. Cardi debates. If everyone’s an adult, fully aware, and enthusiastically agreeing to this arrangement, then who are we to judge? Is it any different from someone throwing their whole paycheck at OnlyFans subscriptions or tipping drag queens at brunch? (Honestly, if you’re not tipping drag queens, that’s unethical.)

But let’s not pretend every aspiring findom is out here living the Goddess Supreme Pay Me Or Perish fantasy. Some of y’all are just sliding into DMs like, “Hey, wanna send me $50?” Girl, that’s not findom—that’s panhandling with extra steps. 

The Fantasy vs. The Reality

Here’s the tea: true findom isn’t just demanding money like a toddler in Gucci flip-flops. It’s a whole psychological game of power, control, and, dare I say…seduction. If you think it’s as easy as snapping your fingers and having a trust fund baby Venmo you, let me tell you—it’s not. 

For every Mistress CashGrab out there, there are 200 broke college students waving their Venmo QR codes at strangers like they’re auditioning for a role in The Wolf of Wall Street.

But Let’s Get Serious for a Sec—Addiction Is Real

Okay, jokes aside, let’s address something important: for some subs, findom can become addictive. The rush of sending money, the thrill of being “used” financially—it can hit the same brain buttons as gambling or shopping addictions. And not everyone can stop when they’ve hit their limit.

This is where ethics really come into play, honey. A good dom isn’t just there to rake in cash; they’re there to set boundaries and recognize when things are going too far. If a sub says, “I can’t afford this anymore,” and the dom’s response is, “That’s your problem, pay up,” we’ve left consensual kink territory and entered Predatory Land™. 

Findom should always be built on trust, communication, and clear limits. If someone’s spiraling financially, it’s not sexy anymore—it’s just sad.

Ethics Schmethics, Just Be Honest

If you’re doing findom, be real about it. Don’t scam people. Don’t prey on vulnerable folks. And if someone says “I can’t afford this anymore”, girl, let them go. No pair of Louboutins is worth someone’s rent money if they can’t swing it. 

But also…if someone wants to pay your bills and send you cash for being hot and mean to them? Get that bag, babe.

Final Thoughts

In a best case scenario, findom isn’t unethical—it’s just spicy capitalism with extra sass. But let’s not pretend everyone’s cut out for it. Some of y’all are out here trying to be financial doms when you’re giving “I forgot to pay my own phone bill” energy.

If you can make it work, snaps for you. If not, well, there’s always feet pics.

But most importantly, remember: Consent is sexy. Boundaries are vital. And addiction isn’t something to exploit. Now go forth, stay hot, and make sure your ethics are as tight as your leather harness. 💅✨

January 08, 2025 — Andrew Christian
Tags: Sex Tips