Article written by Kendra Beltran

So you swiped right, met up, hooked up, caught feels, and are now in an actual relationship. The only problem is...could your new beau be a little um, much? We’re talking about those people who verge on crazy when it comes to being obsessive and clingy. If you think your new partner is just that, take a look at all the signs below and if they display more than a few, it may be time to have the talk and then walk away.

Home Takeover

If you just started going on with someone and you start to notice way too much of their stuff in your home, it’s okay to be wary. While a toothbrush and having a couple of things in a drawer is as fine as Idris Elba, it starts to get concerning if it’s only been a month or two and they’re in your living room redecorating with wall art they didn’t even consult you on. That’s more on the line of something you do a year into a relationship, or after you two have discussed living together. Out of nowhere? That’s a yikes!

Jealousy is a Bitch

Anytime a new relationship has way too much jealousy brewing, you know things aren’t going to last. So if it’s been a few weeks and they’re already accusing you of cheating because you wanted to hang out with some guy - who was your cousin by the way - then it’s time to end it before you dig yourself deeper into an insane hole.

Password Demands

This goes along with being jealous and having trust issues. Do not give someone that just entered your life the passwords to your socials. Just don’t.

Social Media Takeover

Speaking of your socials, a sign that your new beau may be a bit too clingy is if their social media goes from run of the mill to being all about you and the relationship. Hell, if they even try and suggest you start one of those joint accounts dedicated to “your love,” run. That nonsense is for heteros who married the first person they ever fucked in high school and never thought to spread their wings elsewhere.

Miss Dependent

Every new relationship has a honeymoon phase where you just cannot seem to be apart longer than it takes for a new episode to start on Netflix, but after some time that should wear off to the point that you two are okay with spending a weekend away with your friends. If they seem to not understand that you two can exist apart for even two days, clingy may as well be their middle name.

Chameleon Syndrome

The reason most of us get with someone is because we like THEM, but when that person - for some odd reason - starts to change everything about themselves to match you, that’s not only odd but also a sign that they’re insecure with themselves and way too obsessed with you. You wanted a partner, not a twin. If you can’t date the person you fell for in the first place, there is no point in keeping things going.

They Shit Talk Your Friends

It’s not that they immediately thought your friends were the worst. They probably don’t even know them that well. All they know is that if you have friends, that means you’ll want to spend time with them and that’s time you’re not at home watching Netflix, all cuddled up. So if you start to notice how much crap they talk about your friends, think long and hard before you take it seriously because they’re more than likely just talking out of their ass to get inside your head so you dump the friends and only want to hang out with them.

September 24, 2021 — Andrew Christian