Want to Be a Better Top? Try Bottoming

So you’ve labeled yourself a “total top.” Congrats, king! But if you’ve never once peeked over the other side of the bedroom fence, how do you really know what you’re doing up there? Being a good top isn’t just about having a six-pack and a generous… sense of rhythm. It’s about empathy, intuition, and yes—experience.

Let’s get one thing clear: this isn’t a campaign to revoke your top card. But if you’ve ever rammed your way into someone like you’re late for a meeting at the DMV, you might benefit from a little perspective. Because nothing builds compassion quite like walking—or, in this case, squatting—a mile in someone else’s shoes.

Here’s why taking a turn as the receiver can make you a grade-A, gold-star top:

1. You’ll Learn Timing is Everything

When you’re on the receiving end, you feel every second. You suddenly realize how long foreplay should last. Spoiler: it’s not 12 seconds and a little spit. The body needs time, baby!

2. You’ll Appreciate Lube Like It’s Gold

You might’ve thought three pumps of drugstore brand was enough. Oh sweetie, no. Once you bottom, you understand that lube isn’t a suggestion—it’s a love language.

3. You’ll Finally Understand Stretching

Ever notice how some tops wince if you even look at their hole with a pinky? Meanwhile, they’re trying to cram in a whole arm-sized cock without a warm-up. Hypocrisy? We think yes. Stretching matters. It’s not just about pain—it’s about safety, pleasure, and respecting the body you’re inside of. Once you’ve felt what it’s like to be opened up without proper prep, you’ll never rush the process again.

4. You’ll Master the Art of Communication

Tops love when a bottom gives clear directions, right? “Slower,” “higher,” “yes, like that.” Once you’ve been on the other side of those instructions, you’ll be way more in tune with the rhythms of reciprocity. Good tops listen. Great tops respond.

5. You’ll Never Skip Prep Again

If you’ve ever dismissed prep as “their job,” try bottoming once without it. Actually—don’t. It’ll humble you real quick. And you’ll realize bottoming is basically an Olympic sport, and you’ve been showing up to the track meet untrained.

6. It Builds Trust—and Trust is Sexy

Being vulnerable (yes, even just for a night) changes how you show up for others. It takes guts to let someone in—literally—and once you’ve done it, you’ll be a more generous, gentle, and downright divine top.

7. Porn Has Lied to You, Sweetie

Let’s be real: porn has some of you thinking sex is just thrust-thrust-cum in ten minutes flat with zero lube, zero prep, and zero communication. False. If your entire sexual technique is based on a studio scene shot from three angles and edited within an inch of its life, you’re setting yourself—and your partners—up for disappointment. Real sex is messier, slower, and way hotter when everyone’s actually comfortable.

So go ahead, big guy. No one’s asking you to trade in your power top sash for a new identity. But even one respectful, curious experience on the other side can elevate your game—and trust us, your future partners will thank you for it.

Now go forth and serve… from both ends of the buffet.