Ask Agatha: My Partner Told Me I'm a Bad Kisser

Dear Agatha,

I really need your help! My long-term partner and love of my life finally
admitted to me that I’m a bad kisser. In all our years together, we’ve kissed here and there, but never those extra long, erotic make-out sessions dripping with heat and passion. Over our relationship, when I have initiated some mouth-to-mouth action, he gets really excited at first, then, like I’m a cold bucket of water, he guides me away from his lips to another area on his body. It never bothered me; I just assumed kissing wasn’t his thing. Can’t believe it never occurred to me to ask if it was something he enjoyed or wanted; what was I thinking?? He has assured me the rest of our sex life is ultra satisfying, but no way I’m letting my man live out the rest of our lives missing out on something he desires. Knowing that he does and has craved my lips and tongue on his has me fired up to learn! Can you help me out with some tips on becoming a luscious dream kisser??

Smooches,

Jovie

Dearest Jovie,

Oh, my sweetheart, we LOVE that you came to us with this! We’ve all had a few
areas of our sex game we weren’t a natural at, or that need a little sprucing up.
Needing a few lip-lock lessons is very common, and something your Auntie
adores helping people with! Like most things, the art of a dreamy kiss takes
practice, trial and error, and patience. Pucker up, gorgeous, and let us take you
from lukewarm to a scalding hot smoocher with our best tips!

Let’s begin at the beginning, shall we, dear? Our best kiss practices start with
soft, moisturized, supple lips, minty fresh breath, and clean, groomed facial hair around the mouth. Simple and easy to keep in practice even on the go. Lip
balm on hand, a tiny bottle of mouthwash, or a pocket tin of mints, a morning
grooming routine, and you’ll be ready to flaunt your pucker from dusk till dawn.
It’s a Vibe

Set your stage. A touch of ambiance never hurt anyone seeking a perfect
kissable moment, my little breakfast muffin. Mood lighting, a snuggle under the
blankets, curled up together on the couch, listening to a sensual playlist, a lit
candle, a bubble bath... the chances to set a vibe are endless and can bring on
some true magic.

Slow and steady is going to be your new bestie. The temptation to go from
subtle to devour in a snap is real, but that’s not where we are at in becoming a
better kisser! Start with gentle and feather-light butterfly kisses. Savor their lips
and mouth. Small nips and soft small licks across their bottom lip. Ease your
tongue into their mouth. Gradually increase the intensity nice and slowly as the
passion heats up. It’s not a race, baby.

In the heat of the kiss, it can be easy to lose yourself in the sensations. But try to
stay present and fully immerse yourself in your partner's experience. Focus on
the feeling of their lips against yours, the rhythm of their breath, and the
electricity that glitters through you with each kiss. Pay attention to their cues
and let their movements guide your own. If their breath hitches in gasping
moans, follow, follow, follow, gorgeous, it means you’re in the zone. If they are
pulling away, don’t stress, just let them slide back. Could be for a breather, or
time to check in and adjust. Communication is a good thing.

Come a little closer, darling, this is our favorite tip, and our favorite little dash of
spicy nice in our make-out sessions; go full body. While your lips are otherwise
occupied, let your hands roam. Use them to caress your partner. Run your
fingers through their hair, a sweep of your thumb along the collarbone, lace
your fingers around their jaw and ears, slide a hand across their ribs and down
their side, grasping a hip bone... *gasp*. Explore and enjoy each other.
Practice. Practice. Practice.

Like all skills worth mastering, becoming a great kisser takes practice. And, I
mean, talk about a fun subject to practice!! Yum!! Get in there and give a few
styles a go. Don’t be discouraged if your first few attempts don't go exactly as
planned. So you get a little sloppy or bump teeth, just smile and keep trying.
Before you know it, you’ll have your true love panting, weak in the knees and
begging for more!

I hope this helps you, sweet Jovie. Keep experimenting, stay open to feedback,
and most importantly, have fun along the way. After all, kissing is all about
connecting with your partner on a deeper level and sharing moments of pure,
unadulterated lip-smacking bliss.

XOXO,

Agatha