Tantra for gay men? Don’t say 'No' until you've tried it
Article written by Maya Vukovska
In the year 300 AD, while the western cultures were practicing the same ol’, same ol’ push-and-pull fucking, the Hinduists and Buddhists came up with the brilliant idea to integrate sex into yoga. Thus, they discovered one very satisfying sexual technique that has the potential of bringing multiple orgasms even to men. Yes, you reаd right - even to men! If you haven’t tried it yet, you don’t know how much you’ve missed! But if you are eager to learn, we are now welcoming you to our crash course in Tantric sex for gays.
What is Tantric sex?
The short answer would be: A path to pure ecstasy. The long one: A practice whose final goal is not necessarily achieving an orgasm but enjoying the whole sexual journey you and your partner have embarked on. You may be used to having quickies in the gym’s locker room or during the commercial break while watching your favorite show. Tantric sex, however, is all about doing things slowly. The aim, as we said, is not to cum loud and amply, but to explore the deepest sensations your body goes through during intercourse. If you really want to get to know your partner, and not just reward him with a solid fuck for bringing pizza for dinner, then you should try your best to connect with him on a spiritual level. By engaging all your chakras in the act, tantric sex can be the best sexual experience you’ve had since the day you realized you had a penis to play with.
Is gay-tantra different from straight-tantra?
Yes, in a way, but not really, would be the answer of the 58-year-old Armin Heining - a former Benedictine monk, who has mastered the technique of energy sexual massage, and has turned tantric sex for gays into his own business. The reason why there is little difference between gay and straight when practicing tantra is that it is all about becoming in-tune with your body and that of your partner, no matter what type of genitalia they have.
How to prepare?
Preparation is of primal importance. As we already implied, you can’t just jump onto somebody and shove your dick into their ass. You near to clear your mind, so that it’s easier for your to step out of your comfort zone. In order to do that, try this: Do belly-breathing for 15 minutes. While breathing, get in touch with what’s going in your mind right now and try to unpack as much of the bad stuff that’s eating you. Then, stretch for a few minutes and let the blood flow forcefully into all of your limbs. You’ll be ready for sex once you start feeling lighter - both mentally and physically.
What’s the best foreplay?
The funny thing about tantric sex is that the foreplay can substitute the sex itself. Because from there you can build up to the actual intercourse… or not.
As to what the best foreplay is, it can be anything, really - taking a shower together, giving each other a foot massage, etc. Create the proper atmosphere first. For starters, wash the dishes from Wednesday and change the cat’s toilet. Then, light some incense and candles, play subtle music in the background. What’s important is that you both are fully present in the moment. Sit facing each other, and look, no! gaze into each other’s soul through your eyes. Don’t let anything else distract you. Move your upper bodies slowly and don’t forget to breathe from your diaphragm. If you could synchronize your breathing, that’s even better. Then, start touching each other sensually, slightly massaging your partner’s feet, palms, neck… Once you feel a wave of warmth filling your body, from toes to nose, kiss. Only kiss. And then, kiss some more.
What are the best positions for tantric sex?
At some point during the foreplay, you’ll start to get aroused. If you feel that you are close to cumming, try to hold it and move the energy from your groins to your upper body.
If you and your partner choose penetrative over non-penetrative sex, then you should know that there are no good or bad Tantric positions, because Tantric sex is focused on the whole experience rather than the technical side of it. But if expect us to give you some advice, we’d say the Yam-Yum position is considered the ultimate Tantric sex position because it entails everything Tantra sex is about - spiritual and physical intimacy with the partner. The penetrating partner sits cross-legged, preferably on the floor, and the receiver sits on his lap facing him. Keep your backs straight, the eye contact steady, and don’t let your attention wander away.
If you are doing it right, you’ll feel fireballs shooting up your spine and exploding in your head. And that’s Tantric sex, brother!
