How to Tell if He’s a Hookup or a FWB (Or Maybe Boyfriend Material!)

Article by Ben Haynes

Let’s paint a (hopefully not too fictitious) picture. One in which you just finished having sex with a new guy for the first time…and it was fantastic. He exceeded your hopes and expectations, and you never wanted it to end. Your body demands another round with him. Now comes the decision: do you see him again? If so, in what capacity? How can you tell if he’s just really great sex or if there might be something more there?

Check Your Compatibility

If this guy is going to be more than just someone you spend a great deal of time with, you must be willing to get naked with him in…other ways. Do you have the same interests? Are you both driven by similar things? If you two were locked in a room together for a few hours, would you have more in common than just wanting to rip each other’s clothes off and get down to business? Listen not just to the content of your conversations with him but also to the quality. Find yourself with stars in your eyes during an intense conversation with him and a passionate sexual encounter. You might be lucky enough to have a quality FWB on your hands!

What Do You Want From Him?

You should always be curious about his intentions, but shouldn’t the same be said for yourself? If you don’t even know why you spend time with him, it might be a sign that he’s great for sex but not much else. Additionally, if you find that the only time you can stand being around him is when he’s naked, it might be time to revisit why you’re with him. FWBs are great, as you have someone who knows your interests and is familiar with your body. This means they can satisfy your cravings in and out of the bedroom. Who knows? Maybe they’ll evolve into something even more significant over time! However, the thrill of spontaneous, raunchy, and (sometimes) anonymous sex can’t be understated. Choose wisely!