Dear Agatha,
Happy Pride Month! I write to you extremely nervous and unsure how to word this, so I’ll be blunt. This month, I’ll be attending my first pride parade and festival. I’ve also booked tickets to an after-hours party that promises performances by drag queens, porn stars, and all kinds of raunchy “dark room” behavior into the wee hours of the morning.
I have some problems, though. First, I come from a strictly conservative, highly Christian community, and second….I’m a virgin. I’ve had close encounters with guys before, but I’ve never let anyone inside… metaphorically and literally.
Have I bitten off more than I can chew at this point? What should I expect going into this entirely new experience? Any tips to make my first Pride, and potentially my “first time,” more….pleasurable?
I really appreciate any help you can provide.
Clayton
Dear Clayton,
My, what a unique and enticing circumstance you’ve found yourself in! First, I want to say “Happy Pride” to you! I commend you for taking a big step toward self-discovery and embracing yourself.
I don’t necessarily think you’ve “bit off more than you can chew!” I believe something drove you to commit to attending the parade and festival. You desire to attend this fabulous party and partake in the fun activities. Or perhaps you wish to observe…that’s fine, too! You should explore these urges and learn more about yourself through them.
The parade and festival will be fantastic, regardless of the size and scope of the events. Pride parades and festivals are a safe gathering space where we all can celebrate our love for ourselves and each other. They also give us a place to be authentically ourselves, proud and loud, where everyone can see. They are judgment-free zones, so go celebrate and have fun!
As far as this party goes, it sounds like plenty of sex-related activities will happen. You have the option to partake, or you can choose to observe. These parties are very open-minded, as you’ve probably already guessed. The great thing about these parties is that everyone in attendance understands that consent is sexy, and if you’re not comfortable with something, say so. People will listen to you. Of course, if you’re ready to get down and dirty with the crowd, enjoy! Just be sure to be as safe as possible. It might be worth your time to look into PrEP beforehand. Condoms and/or lube might also be something to bring with you, but usually, these parties have them stocked up ahead of time.
Go with the flow, listen to yourself and your body, and have fun! Celebrate living an authentic life and enjoy your first Pride! I’m sending you all the best!
With love,
Agatha
