Dear Agatha,
There's a small predicament in my relationship. Hubby and I have both--let's say--been around the block sexually speaking. We're both extremely open-minded when it comes to exploring different sides of our fetishes. But recently we've hit a snag: introducing other people. And no, not just group sex. When he can keep on eye on me, it's fine if I suck another cock here and there. But recently I've have a craving to open up our relationship a bit. In other words, I want to try having dating and fucking other guys here and there, with the understanding that he and I are still bonded. Hubby has responded well to this proposition. I guess the question, is this just another kink, or am I actually cheating on him?
Sincerely,
Fred
Dearest Fred,
Fetishes do not exist in a vacuum. In some cases an open relation can work, and in others it will functionally do the opposite: it will permanently close the relationship. The operative difference is whether or not both parties agree to you. You wining and dining other men across the country is not the same thing as introducing handcuffs. Be honest with yourself: is your husband not satisfying you sexually? You're using this open relationship dynamic as a why to avoid dealing with an unpleasant truth, I suspect. Go jerk off and think things over.
XOXO,
Agatha
