Nipples are the New Assholes: 8 Things to Know About Nipple Play
Article written by Maya Vukovska
Internet is full of sex advice coming from all-know lifehackers. Since our topic is about nipples (and less about buttholes, sorry), I decided to check what both the real and the self-claimed sex experts have to say about it. If you have done similar research yourself, then you know there are thousands of videos and articles involving nipples - both male and female. Although, truth be told, the nipples on huge female breasts prevail. But I am not here to count and compare, but to share some wisdom on how to play with male nipples so that your partner comes. With a vengeance!
They’re there not without a reason
It’s common knowledge that the nipples of cisgender women serve a biological purpose. But what about men’s nipples? Since men cannot breastfeed then why, for God’s sake, they have them! The answer is simple. Nipples develop in the womb before the Y chromosome kicks in, that is before an embryo’s genitalia form as male or female. But since they are there, so why not make them useful in some way, and pleasurable at that!
What does nipple play involve?
Can be many things, really - biting, sucking, rubbing, touching roughly, touching gently…
Because there's certain pain involved too, nipple play is often on the BDSM menu.
Fortunately for gay men, nipple play can NEVER induce labor or stimulate milk flow!
Ask before bite!
Not everyone likes their nipples to be touched, let alone rubbed or bitten. So, if you’re about to have sex for the first time with some guy, you’d better start off slow. Instead of asking him directly whether he’d like his nipples played with, set an example by starting playing with your own nipples while he’s giving you a blowjob or a handjob. This helps to build up anticipation. Besides, it will hint at your interest in nipple play, and your partner will hopefully follow up. Remember that there’s nothing wrong or shameful about wanting nipple stimulation. It doesn’t emasculate you, it’s just another way to get you closer to an orgasm.
Đžxy is your friend
And, of course, I’m not talking about oxycodone, but oxytocin. That’s a hormone playing a role in the production of testosterone, but also in other human behaviors including trust, recognition, mother-infant bonding, and…sexual arousal. Not without a reason, it is called the “love hormone”! If you’re doing the nipple play right, oxytocin will be produced in the hypothalamus and buildup in the system. Keep in mind, though, that just like penises and assholes not all nipples are alike. And I don’t mean just their form and color; their sensitivity may vary too - from zero to 1000! Do not expect your partner to immediately explode after a few seconds of nipple-sucking and twisting. And If he doesn’t react even after many seconds of sucking and licking, pair the activity with other sex acts that you know for sure will make him achieve the big O.
Ice, ice, baby, baby
If he likes the nibbling and biting, he’ll certainly like some icing on his nipples, too. Surprise him with your professional technique - ice him first, and then blow some warm air on them. The sudden shift of temperature will send shock waves through his body. It’s pretty much like giving a blowjob with your mouth full of ice cubes, but better!
Hand techniques
There are a lot of moves you can apply to the nipples: pinching, brushing, flicking, twisting…You can use not only your fingertips but also your palms and nails for rubbing and scratching. The double-finger technique is highly recommendable to try. With two fingers pinch the nipple and twist it slightly back and forth. Then apply quick strokes with the tongue or the tip of a finger.
"Make out” with the nipple with your mouth
Straight men know that the best way to suck a clit is to create vacuum around it. The same technique can be effectively transferred to the nipple.
Biting is a classic, and it can create a maximum sensation, but you have to be extra careful not to use too much force because you may risk damaging it or even ripping it off. Keep in mind that nipples don’t grow back after an injury, and it has to be stitched back on.
Тake nipple play to the next level
If you're thinking sex toys, then you've guessed right. And there are plenty of them out there - nipple suckers, nipple clamps, magnetic orbs, you name it. I’d personally recommend the orbs, as they look like a fashion accessory, really. You place the orb on either side of the nipple and watch the magnets squeeze the skin in a way your sub-partner has never felt before.
