5 Signs Your Friends Are Getting in the Way of Your Romance
Article written by Kendra Beltran
We all love our friends. Especially as we get older. They are our tribe and we'd do anything for them but can we be real for a second? Doesn't it sometimes feel as if our friends are trying to low key sabotage our chances at love? Perhaps they don't even know they're doing it, or they 100% do. Either way, we're about to break down the obvious and not so obvious ways your friends are ruining your love life.
1. Always Around
How is someone supposed to get their freak on when their besties are always right by their side? Exactly. It is one thing to go on the prowl together, but once you've found your prey - they need to back up, back off, and back out of the situation so you can do what you do best.
This is especially true if you are trying to start something new. Anyone will tell you it's intimidating AF to walk into a social circle as the new kid when you start dating someone. You have to ease your new bae into things steadily. If your friends are constantly around though, that may be intimidating and scare them off. We're not saying to keep your boo and your BFFs apart forever, just ease them into the new dynamic of you having a man. Don't let them scare him away!
2. Single Diva Shade
Oh. Mah. Gawd. We all have at least one friend who is destined to be single forever. They say it is a choice but we all know the real tea. Anyways, they are the friend that is constantly on a soapbox practically screaming about the beauty of being single while simultaneously throwing shade at any and everyone who wants to find love (namely, you). That shade can dig deep into your soul and leave you believing that perhaps you do want to remain single until your late '60s. Don't let that happen. Sit your single forever friend down and let it be known that while they're happy going to bed alone at night, you respect their independence but want a man to wake up to.
3. Downplay Every Guy
You show your friends a picture of someone you may or may not have caught feels for and they just go to town about everything from his hair to his shoes. Rude, right? Those friends are just jealous no one has slid into their DMs (and other places) in a minute. Just ignore the haters and continue to swipe right on whoever you choose.
4. Busted Advice
Whether or not they're married, single, divorced, or just cohabiting with someone - everyone has an opinion on dating. Some advice is great, but those friends who literally are the worst when it comes to love are always the ones who have to give their two cents. It's up to you to know when to let it go in one ear and out the other. We're not saying they're wrong, but there's a reason their relationship status has been "It's Complicated" for a hot minute.
5. The Oblivious
So we have gone over those who hang around too often, the shade, the haters, and the bad advice givers. Those are all pretty apparent. What's left on the list? Well, it's got to be the friends who just don't even care enough to ask how your love life is going. Yes, while there can be a problem with friends who are too overbearing when it comes to who you date, you can also have a problem when your friends don't even care. There has to be a happy medium.