5 Tips To Have A Great First Fuck
Article written by Maya Vukovska
You know how it goes - they all seem to like you in the beginning, but the first sex kinda kills the magic. Like most cheeky millennials, you’ve met on Twitter, or some dating app, you chat for a while, then decide to meet in person. After a couple of drinks, his hand is stroking inner thigh, and in the next moment you hop in a taxi back to his place. After you fuck that night, you start making plans for a second one, but he somehow always seems to be “busy”. Even when his Tweet says he is “bored AF”! And you can’t but wonder, is there really a curse of the first date sex, or it's just you?…
Do some grooming and washing … down there
There is a scene in the popular TV show It’s a Sin where the still unexperienced Ritchie (Olly Alexander) goes to bed with a boy, Ash (Nathaniel Curtis), he has a crush on. When Ash goes down on Ritchie, we can tell by his grimace that he’s kinda repulsed by Ritchie’s butt condition. Yep, the presence of a certain smell and of much unnecessary hair down there can be a mood-for-fuck killer. No matter whether you’ve planned to have sex, or not, you should always keep your butt and balls in the presentable appearance! Because one never knows what the cat will drag in...
Don’t forget about the good old foreplay
We understand that the very first sex with someone feels more like an ER thing than an actual, sensual act of lovemaking. But if you really like the guy and, even after the first date, you see a future together, then try not to rush into shoving your dick up his ass. Slow down, stud! Make out as long as you both can stand. It will definitely heat up things. Besides, kissing is considered bonding behavior, and is much more personal than actual intercourse. It reduces anxiety, helps you relax and concentrate on the forthcoming act. If however, your partner or you, for that matter, happen to be a lousy kisser, there’s not much to be done in the making-out compartment.
Lube up!
Ladies always keep lipstick in their purses. Gay men should always a spare condom AND a travel-sized lubricant at hand - no matter if they keep those in the car’s glove compartment or their jeans' back pocket. Making a “dry” impression on your first date fuck is certainly not a “beginning of a beautiful friendship.” What’s more, if your date happens to be well-endowed, lube will be your best wingman. You’ll thank us later for the tip.
Let him hear you
Not saying a word during sex for fear of ruining it is a sign of a very, very wrong attitude. Talking is actually a great pleasure trigger. There’s no way you won’t be able to cause a fire in his loins by whispering in his ear, “Show me on my nipple how you’d want me to suck your dick”! If your partner is doing something you don’t like, tell him. If he’s doing something you really like, tell him that, too. The first sex with someone shouldn’t be like a 3-minute figure skating gig followed by a stressful waiting for the judges to score your silent performance.
Don’t focus on your look
No matter whether you’ve had one of those I-hate-the-mirror kind of days or you’re constantly dissatisfied with your look, keep repeating to yourself that this guy went to bed with you not because he was wasted (although it’s a possibility), but because he was attracted to you. You may not believe it but your sex performance depends very much on your self-confidence. Scientific research shows that there is a connection between body image and sexual happiness. You can either keep hating your body and have lousy sex, or you can just relax and enjoy the moment. Your partner will appreciate that you’re confident about yourself and will also appreciate the wonders you can do with that body of yours!…
It’s a cruel, cruel dating world out there. So, if you want to get yourself a second date (and why not even a long-term commitment), you need to be: a) clean, b) bold, c) loud, and last, but not least, self-assured. We keep our fingers crossed for you to pass your next first date fuck with flying colors!
